The Story of Lisa McVey

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This movie.

I wanted to be the first person Bobby Joe Long saw, unfortunately, he didn’t open his eyes.

Lisa McVey

God has shown me the only way to really be free when someone bestows injustice against you is complete forgiveness, my life changed forever and for the better. I chose not to remain a victim. I chose to live.

Lisa McVey

I wanted to look Bobby Joe Long in the eye.

Lisa McVey

One of the markers of my childhood was that no one would believe me. Although I don’t have story like this particular one, this shows the degradation and depletion of life in someone who isn’t believed. I will always believe my child and none of their life choices will ever put me in a position to dismiss or disregard what they say.

This movie shows an extreme example of that disregard and the lack of protection by all adults closest to her. The trauma and impact to her life as a result is unfathomable. Just crippling to see someone experience such tragedy at the hands of those in the position to protect them. She lives a life no one should experience.

No matter how small or great, if my child feels something, I believe her. Sees something I believe her. Is hurt I believe her. I believe her.

It’s our responsibility to protect our children emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically. When we do this we bring wholeness and character flourishes within then, the idea that someone who has lied isn’t also an honest person is false. There are many honest wholesome people who has lied. Everyone should have a voice to speak and be heard and seen and believed. No matter how unbelievable or outlandish it is.

I believe you. I will always believe my girls. It took 3 cops not believing her to get to the 4th who took her seriously and started by saying I believe you to solve the case not only to catch her attacker, but to catch their serial killer. It took someone believing a young girl who from some peoples perspective was just trying to get attention of out partying. Even if she was any of those, even she was partying, trying to run away, trying to get attention. It would not be justification for her concerns and claims to be dismissed, ignored and treated like a tall tale. This is a great movie and a strong example of the realities so many women face in the midst of an unbelievable situation. To believe someone is the deepest form of connection you can muster. To hear someone is deepest for of respect. And to see someone is the deepest form of acceptance. We are in our core innately wanting and desiring connection, acceptance and respect. We start by believing them, hearing them and seeing them. However, we cannot do all of that unless we can do that to ourselves. We can only believe others to the extent we believe ourself (honest w ourself), we can only hear others to the extent we hear ourself (tune out the self talk assumptions of what we think others think of us, and listen to who we really are based on our intrinsic worth), and we can only see others to the extent we can see ourself (taking the blinders of our shame of the past, stopping our self condemning and begin our self love through the lens of compassion for ourselves and gentleness for our precious 8 year old self, 12 year old self, 15 year old self, 18 year old self and so forth, loving each and every version of ourselves through the years and telling her you love her and believe her).

To really grasp and accept someone where they are at and meet them in that place, we must first be able to grasp ourselves and meet ourselves right where we are at, accepting who we are, what we have chosen in our life to get where we are and align ourselves with who we want to be. To believe someone stems from our own ability to believe in ourselves. All of this is so powerful and empowering and I feel so strongly about it.

I know it’s a lot.

I just want you to know I believe you and I love you. This movie is worth watching, triggering, but worth watching.

(Rape is taking masculinity and instead of using it to protect and love with the natural instinct to passionately love in a consensual and aggressive manner, it is the corruption of taking what is not yours in a forceful insecure manner. Those who rape people of the dignity, innocence and exploit their vulnerability are projecting all their own insecurities onto the one being raped. They are cowards and do not want to be healthy masculine men, who use their masculinity to protect and cover, but to power over and exploit. It’s sick and sad and deserves to be castrated from existence)(I have come to terms with why rape porn is so popular along with the odd desire in many women I know including myself to be “raped consensually” ie cnc is what it’s called… consent non consent, because it is in the category of the primal mating passion between two who are vigorously involved with one another, rape culture is devastating and not healthy. Because it takes what is a natural desire to be engulfed in a passionate companionship and instead brings shame, power and control into the mix where it does not belong. Anyone who rapes someone of choice, the truth and then blames them for it, is a coward and does not deserve to have a choice in the repercussions or consequences.)

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