Hey! My name is Hannah. I’m learning, sharing, praying and embracing some clarity Gods provided in my life. I do not need approval to hold standards and boundaries in my life. God is the final authority and I know this. Forgiveness and reconciliation are not synonymous. Forgiveness is personal, between you and God. You do not need permission from anyone to say no and protect the portion God gave you to steward. Your own individual life, that is all. If that includes separating yourself from those who do not follow Christ, yet claim they are Christians – make that boundary without apology. God did not give anyone dominion over your life. Beloved, test the spirits and rebuke the evil spirits that are attached to us through un-trust-worthy people. Be encouraged and be blessed! ♥️
If you handle everything and no one complains = you’re doing it right
If you handle everything and someone complains = you’re too controlling
If you don’t handle everything and no one complains = you’re doing it right
If you don’t handle everything and someone complains = you’re lazy and selfish
If you take time to yourself and no one complains = you’re doing it right
If you take time to yourself and someone complains = you’re self-centered
If you do something that makes you happy or brings joy to your life and no one complains = you’re doing it right
If you do something that makes you happy or brings joy to your life and no someone complains = you’re not dying to self and being flesh filled and selfish
It’s a pretty accurate assessment. You’re doing it right, as long as everyone isn’t complaining, then you’re doing it wrong and shame on you for not fixing their problem with you sooner. It’s clearly your fault that they are angry and it’s now your responsibility to fix their emotional state of being. Read the books and seek a counselor to fix your relationship. Because when there’s any problems — it’s no individuals responsibility, it’s the entire relationship that needs saving and you my dear, have been called to fix it until no one is complaining.
Isn’t that just a load of hogwash. I know some mean well and have a true desire to help. However, when your help consists of projecting things onto someone like guilt, shame, bitterness, hate and a multitude of other things… and make it as if they have got to feel these things, because this is (insert their perspective of your life) what they believe is a natural response to your lifes woes. They then disregard everything you’ve said, and made it all about the relationship, instead of the individuals behavior. This is emotional damage and dismissive behavior.
If you pray daily and study your Bible daily and never talk about your life concerns = you’re doing it right
If you pray daily and study your Bible daily and talk about your life concerns = you’re complaining and clearly not praying enough
If you never seek wise counsel = you are doing it right
If you seek wise counsel = you’re clearly all messed up and need to be looked down upon
These scenarios are widely perceived by a generation born out of desperation. Like the woman is only as good as she “makes” everyone feel… thus her value and worth are defined by not just how hard she works, but rather the opinion of the observer of how hard she works… it’s bonkers. Like there’s a belief that women are simply nothing, until given value – always based on opinion.
It’s a lie!
The generation born out of desperation. Women got married, that was the goal, get married, have babies and raise babies and there is your worth. It’s wrapped up in your marriage, husband, children and dying to your needs daily. Women are disposable bags of flesh. Use it up until it gives up, if it does and then discard if she won’t get with the self loathing program, and call her bitter and toss her out with the trash.
We don’t need men in the same way the women of that generation needed men. Sure we still need men, but I can own my own things now. I can have my own bank account. Doctors still don’t take me seriously, but they are usually from that generation too, so I digress. Their parents were born out of desperation, products of a mom who had no option, but to get married and have a baby with a guy regardless of his quality of character. It was her duty to see that he was happy at all costs. Ick. Gag much. Imagine the deep pain she must have felt and all the coping mechanisms she used to just get through the day… because it was her responsibility to meet her husbands needs with a cheerful attitude no matter what!! “Men can’t handle hearing all your problems” — “men need things, and that’s what you have to do” — it’s perpetuated even today in 2022. Don’t confide or treat men like they can be better, just enable them to be helpless pathetic leeches. You’ll have peace the more you die daily to their endless whims of incessant need.
Women were not put on earth to be subservient to men. No. Women were created in such a beautiful way. From the inside of a living human. Women came from the very thing that protects the most vulnerable area of a man, the rib. — a woman was created to be a beautiful vulnerable protected vessel. A vessel that is not used and abused, but cherished and adored. For too long, men and women have been lied to about their worth due to desperation. The inability to choose based on quality. God created men and women, not to hurt one another – but to embrace one another with love. Now that women aren’t dependent on men to survive, in the sense we can sustain ourself as individuals and not merely be looked at as “his wife”, we have an opportunity to release this ideology that I need a man to fulfill my worth or give me value. When we nullify the true worth we have, that God gave us, we reduce our worth to the opinions of others. And to be honest, some/most opinions just stinks and are lies.
God loves you, individually. God loves you, not because of what you’ve done, but because of who He is. Not because you’re married, not because you had children or waited till marriage to have sex or didn’t. God loves you and I, not because we earned anything, rather God loves us because he created us, because he says in Bible that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
Your worth isn’t found in others opinion on your life. Your worth is found in your creator. God does not want you living in the bondage of others expectations of your life. God knows your heart and knows how you feel. He seeks to have a relationship with you and to open your understanding with wisdom. God knows what it’s like to be on this earth as a person who is tempted and tried. God knows the pain we face and trials we are up against. The hateful people we come into contact with. The religious people who only care about appearances. You know what God called them. Vipers.
God sent His only begotten son, that you and I might have everlasting life. You see, God loves us so much. He did not send His son to condemn us. In this sin cursed world we are already condemned. He sent His son, that we might be saved! Those who claim to know Christ, but don’t follow Him are likened to demons. They are not followers of Christ and should not be trusted, even if they say they are. That is not wise counsel. Always take it to God, through Him and not desperation – we will see things clearly and wholly. Some people simply cannot be trusted, no matter how much we pray they will be. God does not interfere with free will. He does however, guide us to what we need. Sometimes that doesn’t look the way most opinions would sway.
Be not deceived. The devil cannot hurt you, he will influence you through other people and things to hurt yourself and destroy yourself. Practical application to the famous saying the thief comes to kill, steal and destroy. The devil is not Omni-present either and does not have the same power of God to know our heart. For the devil to know your fears and weak points, you’d have to tell him/his demons… only speak truth in the face of evil spirits. God is alive and on the thrown of my life. No man or woman can take away my personal individual relationship with Christ. No matter if our opinions differ. I am in Christ and He is in me. For I am a new creature, old things passed away and behold all things become new. Satan has no dominion here, for me and my house serve the Lord. I rebuke any evil spirit today trying to take away your joy, peace and happiness. In the name of Jesus Christ. I plead the blood of Jesus on this place, please Lord protect my mind and heart from those who would try to deceive me or cause me to stumble. I have love to give, Lord guide my steps, that I might bring glory to your name.
Reveal the truth Lord. You are the truth, please reveal those who conceal their true intent and nature, claiming to be Gods, but serving another. I pray you protect my home. In Jesus name Amen!!
You did nothing = You Are Enough
You did nothing and someone complained = You Are Enough
You did something = You Are Enough
You did something and someone complained = You Are Enough
Thanks for reading my triggering post. I used to live out of desperation and I want to let you know, there is freedom on the other side. – Hannah
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