Hey, I’m Hannah!! I am a champion of women empowerment and love to encourage women to trust themselves. I am in a couple groups on fb that are healing and have helped me in my search for clarity and I am thankful for how many women are in these groups sharing their experiences and helping all of us feel less alone and more validated in our own experiences as well. We have things that have happened to us that are so unimaginable, I had no idea people did this type of stuff, that someone could be so evil. It gives “spite” a run for its money in reality. So, I have decided to create a series. A series of my responses to original posts in these private groups (series name is OP Responses). Since it’s private, I’m not sharing what they said, but I will share the general topic as a title and then my response to their post. I think this is a great idea and it’s also going to be based on my own experiences. I hope this is enlightening to you and gives you some validation in your own experiences. Much love to you on this journey to healing and clarity! I have a list of resources at the bottom of this page! Tap here to skip to it!! – Hannah
Crazy Making
Purposefully doing things that are insignificant in nature a chronic pattern of times with the intent to create chaos out of quite literally nothing, in order to cause you to feel crazy for even being upset about it.
Hannah Esther
Mine would do similar insidious things and then lie about them. Which turned into arguments over a $10 bill, a shot glass, me being sick and not telling him that I was sick so that he could take care of me (he yelled at me and silent treatment me for not telling him I was sick, because — and wait for it — he loves me and wanted to take care of me)… yeah make it make sense. These idiots will lie about the color of the sky just to get a reaction and then get mad at you for even insinuating that they lied, because reaction. It’s their drug of choice other than admiration 24/7. These royalty wannabes are pathological, they know what to do to get a reaction to trigger your crazy bone, to “prove” they are superior, because if they can “control” you into a fit of arguments…. They “got you”, they “won”….. they have devoured you and all that is reasonable to get you in the chokehold of “why is he doing this” to get you to try to understand the lunacy that is their delusion, they know exactly what they are doing and they know it’s the trick that always works when you’ve been groomed to believe that they are rational people to some extent. They wear their mask crooked sometimes, so we don’t even realize the full extent of the strings they pull behind the scenes.
insignificantly insignificant
Hannah Esther
And the things they do are so meticulous and insignificantly insignificant, that to ever tell someone “my spouse lied to me about having a $10 bill in his wallet” would actually sound like we are the overly petty one in the relationship. I heard someone call this death by a thousand paper cuts, because nothing is ever “bad” on its own…. It’s the pattern. It’s the gut punch, the agonizing and harrowing sudden realization that —— and listen closely —— they are doing this on purpose and know exactly what they are doing. That throws you for the loop of your life, ruminating every thing from your relationship now knowing it was all fake and a lie.
it’s all a lie
Hannah Esther
Blows your mind knowing that it’s all a lie and now you’re left to either deal with it and heal or avoid and possibly jump back into denial. The ignorance is bliss idea can be very alluring when the reality of who they are choosing to be is absolutely harrowing and a gigantic wrench in the future you thought was real. It’s such a life altering reality check. Today it’s your eye drops, tomorrow it’s your car keys the next it’s your mind. It’s a slow and painful awakening in my opinion.
Much love to you in your journey to clarity! ♥️
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My response: That stuff is straight up out of the pit of hell. I’m so sorry that you experienced that. They can’t handle the idea that you’d be kind and considerate, they have to project their toxic, hateful, evil intentions and assign their true motives to you. Otherwise they’d be all to aware that they are horrible people and can’t justify themselves. But blaming you, ahhh, that is enough justification for them to not only unjustly accuse you of things far far out of your character, but to keep being evil and assassinating your good nature as often as possible. Mind games is right. But doesn’t quite hit or do it justice to lengths they go to destroy us and relish in the destruction. Much love to you, I hope you escaped the hell he creates! ♥️
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Resources
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- Natalie Anne Hoffman with the Flying Free podcast — episode 160 “An Emotional Recovery Tool That Changes Everything” — this episode is a game changer. I listen to it often and it has changed how I think and process my thoughts. Defines where our actions begin. How no one can make us feel anything. It’s all based on the meaning we place on things. It’s powerful to take your power back that you didn’t even know was yours to begin with. It was yours all along!
- Leslie Vernick – Enriching Relationships That Matter Most — podcast episode “Is It Abuse?”
- PlusONE Parents — podcast episode “Does God Hate Divorce”
- Jen Wilkin — podcast episode “DISTRESS & DELIVERANCE: UNDERSTANDING THE HEART OF GOD IN THE MIDST OF SUFFERING WITH JEN WILKIN”
- Bare Marriage with Sheila Wray Gregoire
- Patrick Weaver Ministries
- Esther Company
- Confusion to Clarity
- The Life-Saving Divorce—Gretchen Baskerville
- Intentional Today
- Sarah McDugal – Wilderness to WILD
- Rebecca Davis—Untwisting Scriptures
- Betrayal Trauma Recovery
- Sarah K Ramsey Toxic Person Proof Podcast
- Marg Mowczko
- Psalm 82 Initiative
- Thriving Forward
- Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse by Heather Elizabeth
- Another One Free
- Amy Gannett — podcast episode “ANSWERING YOUR KIDS’ QUESTIONS ABOUT GOD WHEN YOU’VE GOT SOME OF YOUR OWN WITH AMY GANNETT”
- Lisa Appelo — podcast episode “LIFE CAN BE GOOD AGAIN: LOSS & LACK TRANSFORMED BY THE GOODNESS OF GOD WITH LISA APPELO”
- Bailey T. Hurley — podcast episode “FRIENDS LIKE FAMILY: FINDING YOUR PEOPLE & CULTIVATING COMMUNITY”
- Nate Postlethwait
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…resources that are crucial for women in situations the never thought they’d be in… Tap to read more!
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“One day we may be able to witness someone in pain that is just not comprehendible to someone who hasn’t experienced it, this is a way for us to have compassion for those people who otherwise are alone.”View post to subscribe to site newsletter. Tap to read more!
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How someone talks about someone is telling. Someone who is unwilling to meet their partner’s emotional needs or engage in constructive communication is unsafe. Tap to read more!
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Live in the confidence knowing that in Jesus Christ is where lies your true identity, not in other peoples opinions or definitions or the idolization of marriage! Tap to read more!
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