Hey! My name is Hannah. I’m on my own healing journey and when I have any breakthroughs or revelations. I like to share what I’ve learned and anything that’s helped me gain clarity over the confusion, brain fog & the nasty habit of dismissing my own needs and concerns. Check out my blog on emotional freedom.
Todays topic is commonly known as word salad. I say commonly, but that’s relative to your healing and/or research into behaviors. I just learned about terminology in the past couple months and still learning. Yet, have experienced the behavior for my whole life by select people and could not understand what was going on and would often leave those situations confused, hurt and misunderstood. Thinking something was wrong with me, as they would be so kind to tell me, that it’s because of me that they do what they do and so forth.
When you’ve been feeling unheard and dismissed when you voice legitimate concern and some how you end up as the one apologizing or confused for even saying anything at all and/or reacting. Now all they focus on is on your reaction and you’re accused of nagging or being that person who is bitter and doesn’t let anything go. After, you can barely even remember what just even happened. You feel disoriented and doubting your own gut feelings and/or instincts.
You’re likely involved in a situation where everything is being twisted and manipulated with some serious gaslighting and DARVO.
It’s deep and ominous. And the reality is, trying to understand why it’s happening isn’t nearly as important as just accepting it’s happening. We don’t want to believe someone would hurt us on purpose.
This video I’m posting gives deep insight to the underlying issue that usually is happening in conjunction to the use of the tactic “word salad” coined as covert narcissism, (aka vulnerable narcissism and fragile narcissism). While we aren’t diagnosing anyone with NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder). It’s important to have language to describe behavior. Some behaviors are abusive. Knowing when something is deliberately abusive or not is important. Either way, it’s unsafe and you having language to associate to behavior helps in gaining clarity over the confusion.
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Much love to you on your healing journey! Feeling isolated is common, know this. You are not alone!! At the bottom I put some screenshots of comments from this YouTube video. You are not crazy. You are telling the truth. I believe you! ♥️🌱
Language and Definition Is Important
Deliberate Use (Intentionally Abusive)
Narcissistic word salad is a type of purposefully confusing speech, using circular reasoning, logical fallacies and other rhetorical devices to disorient and manipulate a person or group. Some antisocial and narcissistic people use it in gaslighting their targets.
Non-deliberate Use (Unintentional Abuse)
Word salad may describe a symptom of neurological or psychiatric conditions in which a person attempts to communicate an idea, but words and phrases that may appear to be random and unrelated come out in an incoherent sequence instead. Often, the person is unaware that he or she did not make sense. It appears in people with dementia and schizophrenia, as well as after anoxic brain injury. In schizophrenia it is also referred to as schizophasia. Clang associations are especially characteristic of mania, as seen in bipolar disorder, as a somewhat more severe variation of flight of ideas. In extreme mania, the patient’s speech may become incoherent, with associations markedly loosened, thus presenting as a veritable word salad.
When you’ve been feeling unheard and dismissed when you voice legitimate concern and some how you end up as the one apologizing or confused for even saying anything at all and/or reacting. Now all they focus on is your reaction and you’re accused of nagging or being that person who is bitter and doesn’t let anything go. After, you can barely even remember what happened. You feel disoriented and doubting your own gut feelings or instincts.
Ambiguity is distinct from the related problem of vagueness, which can be thought of as a lack of specificity that hampers interpretation. Rather than a multiplicity of meanings, vagueness in language may make it difficult to assign any meaning at all.
Lexical ambiguity often occurs because words and phrases can have multiple meanings. For example, the meaning of “We saw her duck” could be either that the writer saw a woman crouch to avoid a missile or that they saw a duck that belonged to the woman.
Structural ambiguity arises when the order of words or phrases in content result in multiple possible interpretations. Misplaced modifiers are a common example. Words and phrases are understood to modify the nouns and pronouns that are assigned to them. When they are misplaced, a sentence can be interpreted to mean something other than what the writer intended.
Figurative language can also be a problem for the interpretation of speech or writing, particularly for non-native speakers and natural language processing (NLP) software. Figurative language includes figures of speech such as metaphor, irony, idioms and puns, as well as imagery and sound-based devices, many of which pose their own particular types of challenges for comprehension.
Key Elements BPD (borderline personality disorder)
Exploitative – making use of a situation or treating others unfairly in order to gain an advantage or benefit.
Entitled – believing oneself to be inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment.
Deliberately and intentionally causing otheir people pain to get your way.
Borderline personality disorder is a mental illness that severely impacts a person’s ability to regulate their emotions. This loss of emotional control can increase impulsivity, affect how a person feels about themselves, and negatively impact their relationships with others. Effective treatments are available to manage the symptoms of borderline personality disorder.
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